Hi! Create appropriate non-defensive responses to real or hypothetical criticisms.

Watch the video and take notes and construct your responses in the Gibbs Challenge.

INSTRUCTIONS

Part One – constructing an initial post

1. Select one of four vignettes listed below.
   • Copy and paste the selection below into your response, so that it is clear which of the four conflicts you have chosen.
2. Construct a defense-arousing statement.
   • Identify the type(s) of defensive language used in Gibbs research in the above statement.
3. Construct a supporting response.
   • Identify the supportive terms identified by Gibbs.

Choose your Vignette:

Vignette #1

You’re an adult child who moves back in with your parents. They say they expect you to follow the “rules of the house.”

1. Defensive Statement:

2. Type:

3. Support Statement:

4. Type:

Vignette #2

Your roommate tells you you’re trying to be “somebody you’re not.”

1. Defensive Statement:

2. Type:

3. Support Statement:

4. Type:

Vignette #3

A friend asks you what you see in your new romantic partner.

1. Defensive Statement:

2. Type:

3. Support Statement:

4. Type:

Vignette #4

On many occasions, a friend drops by your place without calling first. Since you often have other plans, this behavior puts you in an uncomfortable position.

1. Defensive Statement:

2. Type:

3. Support Statement:

4. Type: